She is BoomBox Coco

Haven’t been on this thing in months… kinda lost the passion for all social network driven activities. But stay tuned for the madness… Fitting enough, fall is ALMOST upon us. Between AC assisted heat waves and fall fashion previews, I’ve been doing ok… ;-)

Been contemplating the several relationships I’ve watched from the sidelines, as well as analyzing my fucked up loves from the past. After suffering in one HORRIBLE relationship after the other and finally settling down in a healthy cohesive relationship and eventually, marriage; I ask myself “Are we perpetually content with being unhappy?” “Would we rather stay in meaningless relationships for the sake of title, and no connection?” I am curious in how we all manage to find ourselves tangled up in the most toxic relationships with people. How do we allow ourselves to be former shells of ourselves for what could be considered the worst people in the world?

From my experience, loneliness eats you from the inside out. You yearn for someone, something, a companion. It’s the most normal desire in the world. But at what point do we add in the other necessary components for a successful partnership?

I look at our grand parents, and realize how unfortunate it is that the last of the dying breed, the real example and image of strength and longevity are whithering away and being replaced by internet saavy former versions of themselves. A lot of us have missed out on the examples we needed to witness and immerse ourselves in before we embark on our own relationships. We’ve kinda had to make the steps up along the way. We stumble A LOT. But nevertheless, we hope and pray that throughout the madness, we can find someone decent enough to introduce our family and friends, is good in bed and AT LEAST makes some decent money. (IF. ONLY.)

But in the grand scheme of things, what classifies as a solid relationship? Do these people cheat? Break up to make up? Is there ever a such thing as a drama free relationship? I think so. I’m living proof of that. But how to we encourage our friends and loved ones to take the chances they need to in order to make themselves available for that ONE? And in reality, does that one person even exist? One could only hope. But in the meantime, I can advise my peers that being in a meaningless, drama filled toxic partnership is a guaranteed recipe for disaster. Even if it means lonely days and vibrator filled nights, make yourself available to the opportunity of a happy ending. Because you are worth the fairy tail ending (with a couple of re writes along the way).